Negative news sells. This might explain press penchant for
nightmare experiences with online dating, or internet dating if you prefer.
Added to this are negative views and stereotypes such as,
"online dating is for geeks" and "online dating is for the
desperate". This article is about dispelling some of the common negative
views and stereotypes by presenting facts.
Common Fallacies and Truths about Online Dating
Fallacy: "Online dating is not safe; I've heard too many
nightmare stories."
Truth: Nightmare stories you've heard are actually rare and more
likely to occur in bars, night clubs and free chat rooms. They only appear
common-place due to publicity they get from the press.
Reputable dating services go out of their way to ensure safe and
secure dating environment for their members. Plus, the cost commitment
eliminates many practical jokers and lowlifes.
Fallacy: "Online dating is for geeks."
Truth: Surveys show that the majority of online daters are
normal people with at least a college education, a career, above average income
and are socially active. Most are interested in a serious relationship.
Fallacy: "You have to be good with computers."
Truth: If all you can do is click a mouse and send an email
(which you can learn in a few minutes), you are ready for online dating.
Popular dating sites make it easy for you and will guide you through.
Fallacy: "Online dating is for liars, losers and the desperate."
Truth: Online dating sites indicate their members tend to be
significantly higher educated and earn above average incomes, are sincere and
honest people in search for serous relationships.
Fallacy: "It's not safe to meet strangers online."
Truth: It's never really safe to meet strangers anywhere, least
of all bars and night clubs. Online dating lets you remain anonymous till
comfortable enough to reveal more to the most suitable prospect.
Fallacy: "It takes/requires a huge time commitment."
Truth: Online dating is the only medium right now that allows
you to go mate-hunting at your convenience. It is open 24/7 and you can do it
in your spare time.
Fallacy: "People lie and misrepresent themselves."
Truth: People lie and misrepresent themselves in person too.
With proper checks, some online dating education, and good old guts you can
learn to uncover deception easily and quickly.
Fallacy: "I'd be too embarrassed if someone found
out."
Truth: What are chances of someone who knows you stumbling upon
your personal ad among millions in one dating site among hundreds? And what
would they be doing there in the first place? If they are surfing, they are on
the same boat with you.
Fallacy: "I'd be embarrassed to tell friends and family
that we met online."
Truth: But you wouldn't be embarrassed to tell them that you met
in a bar? What's important is that you find someone who makes you happy, not
whether you met in a bar, church or through a modem. Look around and you'll
find couples who met online and are happy, even proud to say so.
Fallacy: "You have to be good at writing."
Truth: Actually, conversation-style writing works better as it
has a personal feel. Just write like you talk and you are good to go. Use a
spelling checker, which comes with most word processing documents such as Word
or WordPad. Some of these do check your grammar also.
Fallacy: "Online dating is for the young and
restless."
Truth: Surveys indicate that the fastest growing segment in
online dating is 40 years plus. This is partly due to other methods not being
as open to this segment, and the fact that career and other commitments tend to
peak at around that age.
Fallacy: "Online dating is for old, naughty or desperate
people."
Truth: Older people are the fastest growing segment in online dating,
simply because it provides them an easier and quicker way to meet potential
mates. But younger people still make the majority, especially those who are
busy in careers.
Fallacy: "It's for people who are not social and have
trouble finding a date."
Truth: At the risk of repeating, online dating membership is
mainly composed of professional, sincere and romantic people who are also
socially active. Internet dating simply offers them an easy and time-saving way
to meet like-minded people.
Fallacy: "It's too impersonal. There's no real chemistry
doesn't feel real."
Truth: If you've ever read a story that drove you to tears you
know that writing does convey emotions. Also, top dating sights now offer voice
chats and video conferencing. You can look and talk to the other person, making
an almost personal date.
Fallacy: "It's too expensive."
Truth: How much is the (potential) perfect partner worth to you?
Online dating actually costs much less than traditional dating that involves
costly dinners before you even find out if you have anything in common.
Dating online allows you to find out if you have something in
common, and to know each other to a reasonable degree before the actual
meeting.
Conclusion: Online dating is one of the most wonderful, healthy
and appealing ways of finding a companion or even a lifetime partner. If you
have not tried it, you owe it to yourself to do so. Top-rated dating sites
offer free trials before you commit, so why not try online dating today?
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